I read the back of the bus ad this morning, where a western beauty promised in English “your dreams will come true with plastic perfection”. What it was actually promoting was in Chinese (I’m figuring it was plastic surgery).
And no matter where we look, we are surrounded by messages that insist we chase perfection if we want happiness and fulfillment. Promises are alluded to that once perfection is achieved, bingo, we will have everything.
- The perfect face.
- The perfect body.
- The perfect career.
- The perfect partner.
- The perfect family.
- The perfect life.
The list is endless. And, apparently we are not there yet, as more, new, improved products and services, flood the market promising to take us from our current state to our ideal, optimal, perfect state (whatever that maybe).
So, what is perfection? Is it achievable? Is it real? Is it what we really want? No? Then why, do we spend an incredible amount of time, money and energy chasing it?
Perfection, as it is put on high and pursued, is a lie, a fantastic marketing concept. And while it means different things to different people, the pursuit of it rarely leads to anything more positive than anxiety, insecurity, self-doubt and misery.
Is it that we really admire perfection? No — the truth is that we are actually drawn to people who are real and down-to-earth. We love authenticity and we know that life is messy and imperfect.
So a challenge for the week:
- give up striving for perfection.
- revel in chaos and imperfection.
- let go of the stress that comes from seeking perfection
- simply acknowledge “I’m not perfect” and be done with it.
Be your best. Focus on achievement. Enjoy every minute.
Give yourself permission to be imperfect, it’s better than perfect — it’s called living.