Most of us hate looking in the mirror, because we are our own worst critics. We immediately see all the flaws, all the blemishes – we get right up close and personal with ourselves, then quickly slap on the war paint and walk away from the mirror. We have a habit of constantly sizing ourselves up in ways that we would never judge others.
Yet, at the same time we resist stepping back a little and seeing the overall picture, seeing the beauty, the uniqueness we bring to the world. We brush of any complimentary features, positive messages or achievements, as “not a big deal” or immediately create a comparison, “I’ll never be as good as ….”.
Self-image is all about
- what you see in that mirror,
- your mental image or self-portrait,
- your assets and liabilities as you see them.
It doesn’t matter what other people think of you, what matters most is what you think about yourself, what you see when you look in the mirror.
Believe me, that person looking straight back at you, looking you directly in the eye – that person will be the hardest person you will ever have to fight against in your life. And nobody can fight this battle for you. You have to do it yourself.
Only you have the power to set a new standard for yourself, where you
- learn to develop a healthier and more accurate view of yourself
- actively build yourself up on a daily basis, not tear yourself down
- change the distortions in the mirror to see the real you and
- stop beating yourself up – and only if you choose to.
You have the choice to increase your awareness and increase your personal power over your own life – and when you look in the mirror, you’ll like what you see more and more, day after day.
Focus on your successes, the good decisions you have made, the many ways you have helped others, the things you have done right in your life. If your focus is on your successes, then looking in the mirror:
- will strengthen you
- will help you consciously choose to raise your standards or not, on a daily basis and
- focus on who you want that person in the mirror to be on a daily basis.
When you look in the mirror, who is there, looking back at you?
Who do you want that person to be?