Do you ever feel ready to grab success by the horns and
- take your career, life or business to the next level?
- make a jump into the unknown?
- challenge yourself and create change?
And, yet at the same time, just when you think you are ready to do something different, you find yourself behaving in ways that directly conflict with what you say you want? Then reflect for a moment – your beliefs will be driving your behavior. It won’t matter how much you say
- you want change,
- you want success,
- you want to take your life to the next level.
If you believe somewhere deep down inside that success will bring with it some kind of pain (loss of freedom, loss of time with your family, loss of friendships or love), you will NOT let yourself do what it takes to succeed. You will instead (sometimes unknowingly),
- avoid working on your goal
- make excuses and procrastinate
- become unbearably frustrated
And as time goes by it becomes harder to stay motivated and even harder to take action.
Does this sound familiar?
Truth is that success requires change, and change has both positive and negative consequences. For most of us it is not the fear of success that is the problem rather the fear of the side effects, or consequences of success.
So, for a moment look at it from a different angle, ask yourself the question, “What will happen if I succeed?”. Forget for a moment about what you hope will happen or what you fear might happen – realistically consider what will probably happen. You achieve your goal. You are successful. Then what? What changes?
Think about both the positive and negatives. Then look closer at what the negatives are, one by one. Why? Two things I have learned about fear:
- Fears that are never evaluated consciously have a tendency to grow stronger.
- Fears under direct examination have a tendency to shrink.
Evaluating the reality of a negative side effect could have you
- figure out how to eliminate it, or
- accept it and live with it, or
- it can give you opportunity to create solutions for those fears-made-conscious, some of which may indeed be valid signals of unsolved problems.
And, suppose you ask, “What will happen if I succeed?” and you realize that you don’t actually want to achieve the goal at all. Celebrate it, create a new game, a new challenge, one that really uplifts you, one that you really want, one that nothing will hold you back from achieving. Take a weight of your shoulders!
Do you want
- to take your life to the next level.
Take a moment to ask yourself – “What will happen if you succeed?”