Making the commitment to pursue major change in most cases, sends seismic waves through our lives. Immediately fears are raised, some real, some imaginary and often before we even take our first real step towards change we respond to the fear and panic. We interpret the unknown, the fear and the “chaos” that follows as signs that we should stop, retreat or put it on hold.
Think, how often have you heard yourself say things like:
- “I can’t deal with THAT now”, “I have to finish THIS first.”
- “Why did this have to happen NOW, just when I was focusing on THAT?”
- “Maybe THIS is a sign that I’ve made the WRONG choice!”
We begin to beat ourselves up, blaming ourselves up for the “chaos” that begins to occur in our lives, all because we wanted something different! We start to over-analyze, over-think, bringing on the fear and panic as the “chaos” unbalances our comfort zone and we default to the comfortable, to the known, to the safe.
Over the years I have come to the conclusion I love the chaos caused by change. Frustrating and confusing – yes! Challenging – yes! Exciting – totally! Do you really think China was in my original life plan, or even in my revised five year strategy? No way it was London or New York all the way baby! Yet, here we are, with no real idea of where this path is really going to take us as we journey our way through theunknown. It’s now hard to imagine what we would be doing and how our lives would be if we had simply kept doing what we did, totally oblivious to this vibrant culture and lifestyle, safe in our comfort zone.
Chaos is the uncertainty sparked by uncharted territory, economic recession and bubbles of opportunity. Chaos balances order and it’s our free will and choice that spark the chaos. So, it’s up to us to make the choice to be okay with both the chaos and the comfort. I have learnt, you don’t need to have everything figured out, learning that I can embrace the change, chaos and growth wherever we end up going, whatever we end up doing.
So, what kind of chaos are you in the midst of right now?
Can you see the flicker at the end of the tunnel? The clarity that will come from chaos?
Or will you give in to the fear, panic and uncertainty?
It’s a choice that only you can make.
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