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BOSSY BRITCHES

07 Feb

Bossy Britches.615Me, bossy???  Never!  Well, maybe.  Definitely, sometimes.  Now I think about it – quite often and I know if my girls were asked, they’d say “totally” probably adding another ‘b’ word to it!  And, I don’t think I have always been bossy, yet when I reflect on the women in my family they are just that, bossy (sorry aunties, and you know it’s true).  

One thing for sure, the older I get, the bossier I have become, although, I think I’ve also learned to shape my bossiness into something that looks more like confidence.  From a professional standpoint, people often tell me that because of my ability to take control of a situation, because of my confident demeanor, because I simply say it as it is, they enjoy working with me. So is bossiness such a negative? And why is it nearly exclusively applied to women and girls?

First off, I don’t believe that bossiness should be seen as such a dirty word.  Think about any natural disaster. Imagine if there was no-one to step up, be boss and take charge.

  • Bossiness gets things done
  • Bossiness is the drive to push and make things happen
  • Bossiness takes control when crap hits the fan.

So when I hear the word bossy, I’m okay with it.  Sometimes you just have to stand up, tell people what’s what, take control and sort things out. Sometimes being bossy is a good thing.  At other times, I substitute it for assertive, confident or bold, all qualities lauded in leadership development.  And sometimes, I just admit, I’ve overstepped the mark and I pull my head in (phew thank goodness that’s not too often), being domineering, aggressive and threatening is never acceptable!  I am glad that I am a confident person (except when I’m not, and that’s a whole other blog).

So, to all those out there who are “bossy britches” – don’t change.  Pick your times carefully, be bossy, step up and take control when needed, remain confident and self assured in the choices that you make.  Never let other’s words detract you from your destiny.

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3 Comments

Posted by on February 7, 2014 in Daily Dose

 

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3 responses to “BOSSY BRITCHES

  1. mahina

    February 7, 2014 at 12:18 am

    Bossy is an over used word commonly used by persons who are threatened by assertive, confident behaviour in someone. Its so often used as a negative and yet I think its an awesome attribute to have. And yes we are a bossy family! Lots of strong, opinionated, beautiful women in this family tree!

    Every time I hear the word bossy I think of that home video of me as a kid with a friend of mine, bossing her on the ‘right’ way to read a book! Do you remember the one I mean? Lucky I have great influences in my life who have taught me to channel my bossiness into constructive, useful confidence, and how to balance it with ‘pulling my head in’ 😉

     
  2. lauraisabunny

    February 13, 2014 at 6:15 am

    sometimes,maybe it is a style, just like someone looks very quiet.I think . :):)

     
    • amanderson

      February 13, 2014 at 6:34 am

      Definitely Laura and like anything by simply being aware of our style we can make the most of it when needed 🙂

       

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