It’s so easy to get so caught up in our busy daily lives that we neglect to compliment others on their efforts and accomplishments. Yes, we all know an artificial compliment when we’re given one and when we receive a real compliment, it can make the world of difference to our day, week or even month.
Living in China, I have seen firsthand the difference a simple compliment can make. They don’t have to be huge, just a small honest comment said in the moment. Sometimes I get a very tentative smile in response, usually as they are trying to translate what I am saying and when the penny drops I get a radiant smile in return and see a burst of confidence.
And it totally works both ways. When we give …. we get. When we give someone a compliment, that look on their face, that radiant smile and the instant recognition of how we just made them feel, makes us feel even more positive about ourselves. It is a win-win situation.
Oh the other hand, I am told that I am hopeless at receiving compliments. So, as I realize the power in not only giving compliments, but also in accepting them, I’m looking to cultivate a new habit to accept and absorb compliments when given and reply with a simple “thank you”. No more deflecting or rejecting – it’s a turn around (and no I am not finding it particularly easy) to accepting and absorbing, allowing a two-way positive boost to occur, a win-win situation.
So how about this week, make a choice – take the time to thank people, compliment good work and share a smile while at the same time, accepting and acknowledging the ones that come your way.
Go on – just three compliments a day – what have you got to lose?
Notice the difference to your day – notice the difference to your weekend!
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